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Awkward Auntie Question No. 1

dating after aya cancer

Ever had a question about relationships or sex that you just can’t ask your oncology care provider?  Ever felt too shy to ask a nurse or doctor a question but really need the answer?  Now you can ask those questions and get answers from Dr. Anne Katz, the Awkward Auntie!

Q: I had cancer 3 years ago and look pretty ‘normal’. When should I tell a guy about my cancer? I’ve told only one guy who I really liked and after that, I never heard from him again. (23 year old woman. ALL)

Awkward Auntie: This is probably the most challenging question to answer because it all depends! There are risks to telling on the first date – the guy may bolt in shock or decide that this is too much to handle. Leave it to the third or fourth date and it may feel like you are hiding something. Maybe the second date, if there is a second date, is a good time to disclose. There’s more interest than a first date but you are not as invested as you might be on the third date or beyond.

You can learn more about this great program, find the answers to past questions, and submit a question of your own by going here!

More about the Awkward Auntie program:

Dr. Anne Katz, also known as the Awkward Auntie, is a certified sexuality counselor and nurse who has written a couple of books about young adults and cancer* – and all the things that happen to your body, relationships, and sex during and after treatment.  She will be answering any and all questions that you send to or that you submit in the form below. You don’t have to give your name or other identifying information – but it might be helpful for her to know how you identify yourself by gender, your age and what kind of cancer and treatment you had.

YOU CAN ASK HER ANYTHING…. Don’t hold back!  Your questions will be answered periodically and posted on our Awkward Auntie page.