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Awkward Auntie Question No. 13

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Ever had a question about relationships or sex that you just can’t ask your oncology care provider?  Ever felt too shy to ask a nurse or doctor a question but really need the answer?  Now you can ask those questions and get answers from Dr. Anne Katz, the Awkward Auntie!

Question:  How do you talk to someone online? I have Aspergers as well as being a cancer survivor and there are some girls on dating sites who don’t have any information to try and make questions and should I give up on a person if they don’t ask me anything?

(submitted by a male, testicular cancer survivor)

Awkward Auntie: Talking to someone online is different from talking to someone in person because of the delay. What would take a few minutes face-to-face can take days or even weeks. It might be helpful if YOU ask some questions and not wait for the women to ask you questions. Lots of people also use online dating sites as a way to ‘screen’ people so if the woman doesn’t seem interested in you (by asking you anything) then maybe they are not interested and you should not continue to try and interact with them.

You can learn more about this great program, find the answers to past questions, and submit a question of your own by going here!

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More about the Awkward Auntie program:

Dr. Anne Katz, also known as the Awkward Auntie, is a certified sexuality counselor and nurse who has written a couple of books about young adults and cancer – and all the things that happen to your body, relationships, and sex during and after treatment.  She will be answering any and all questions that you send to AwkwardAuntie@lacunaloft.org or that you submit in the form below. You don’t have to give your name or other identifying information – but it might be helpful for her to know how you identify yourself by gender, your age and what kind of cancer and treatment you had.

YOU CAN ASK HER ANYTHING…. Don’t hold back!  Your questions will be answered periodically and posted on our Awkward Auntie page.